The purpose of this post came out of pure coincidence, however I felt it was necessary. Last night I was googling ‘how to make yourself fall asleep’ because my brain just does not turn off as of late. When I got to the ‘yourself’ part of my sentence, the list of suggestions that came up, were slightly disturbing;
- How to make yourself look completely different
- How to make yourself look like another person
- How to make yourself beautiful
Is this really what people are googling?! Don’t get me wrong I am a lover of makeup and fake tan etc but I don’t want to look completely different? I think there is a large difference between making the best out of your assets and wanting to completely change yourself.
I exercise yes to look good, but also to feel good. I’m not doing it for anyone else. The same can be said for makeup. I love experimenting with products and trying out different looks, but I don’t think I could imagine changing myself completely and that is coming from someone who isn’t that confident with self image! Yes there are certain things I would like to alter, but who doesn’t have that feeling? It is however a worrying trend that more and more girls are going to extremes to effectively become some one else.
There has always been pressure on both men and women to adhere to society’s version of ‘beautiful’ but I thought we had come a bit further in terms of what beauty can be defined as. I thought uniqueness was now being embraced and slowly but surely it was becoming more acceptable to be (and look like) yourself.
We all know the phrase: ‘don’t try to look like the girl in the magazine, because she doesn’t even look like that’ and it has a point! I don’t judge anyone who opts for plastic surgery or other methods of altering their appearance, provided it’s for nobody else but themselves! Unfortunately I think many girls dream of looking like the girl on the front cover. I’m guilty of this too, but I think my cynical side can kick in where I realise they don’t really look like that. This tends to make me feel better about my bad hair day!
(I personally don’t think either look bad in the before pictures!)
I don’t know however if celebrities and models can claim sole responsibility for us ladies feeling insecure and in some cases inadequate. I personally think the majority now know the effects of photo-shop and we see pictures of celebs with no makeup now online quite often. I think the issue arises within a much smaller circle. At the end of the day, people can be mean. Hurtful words seem to consistently be a form of communication in the day to day. In some cases it may not be intended to be as damaging as it realistically is, however this doesn’t undo the effects. You can’t take back an insult that has genuinely hurt someone.There’s a lot to be said for Thumper’s wise words. Don’t be the reason someone types in the above search criteria. Be the one who makes some one feel better about their insecurities. Be kind, always.
At the end of the day, we all want the perfect body, the perfect hair, the perfect clothes. But who gets to decide what is perfect? Everyone’s perception of beauty is different. That’s what makes it beautiful 🙂 Confidence and a genuine smile is the most attractive thing a person can have. It’s a pity we are so hard on ourselves that we sometimes lose the things that make us seem so beautiful to others!
Until Next Time My Loves